The costs of trans visibility

The costs of trans visibility

Yesterday, Dylan Mulvaney broke her silence: https://www.tiktok.com/@dylanmulvaney/vi....

For context, this is a trans influencer who built a 10 million strong following on TikTok. She took a brand deal with budweiser to post an ad on an instagram, and the anti-trans right went absolutely ballistic, calling for a boycott, condemning the company, and to some perhaps unknowable degree it influenced that Budweiser sales dropped by a 1/4 and

. Dylan speaks more personally about the effect of the hatred on her.

What strikes me about this story is that it is just about visibility. This isn't inclusion in sports or gender-affirming care for minors, it was just that a trans person was visible. This wasn't even visibility in a TV commerical that a poor right-winger is forced to see, it was an ad on her own instagram page. We're all in our own social media algorithm influenced bubbles, but from my vantage point it really has seemed that in the last year or so things have just gotten worse for trans people and the backlash to even minor visibility is growing.

We need to do better.

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30 June 2023 at 04:48 PM
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by Luciom P

but there is context.

the "trans women are women" crowd wants trans women in women prisons, in women sports, in sororities, in lesbian associations (when they like women) and so on.

they want to legally mandate their definition, and use the monopoly of violence of the state against anyone who disagrees.

moreover, unlike car/pickup which are fairly new human inventions, women and men are very distinct categories in every human society in histor

As i told Uke i'm not saying anything remotely original. It's philosophy 101 and many other fields 101, I'm sure.

Not everyone has your 5 paragraph essay in their heads when they hear that question. That's what it means to you. To others it means something else. That's exactly why it's a pretty much meaningless question.

It's very vague and could be answered many ways, but there really isn't an intelligent answer other than asking for clarification, or perhaps referring to the dictionary.

There's no point in discussing very vague claims or questions and words with unspecified meanings.

If you don't like trucks, there are endless examples of vague claims/questions and ambiguous language or multifaceted words.


by Bobo Fett P


Again, LOL. To the best of my knowledge, homophobia and transphobia have always had this meaning - they would be rather useless words if they meant nothing more than "fear of". Just because you don't like the way a suffix is being used doesn't make a poster wrong when they use a word in the same way as every English dictionary I've ever seen. And it certainly doesn't make you correct when you assert the poster is deciding the definition. Th

the you deciding the meaning was intended to be "your tribe" (lolwat tribe). I simply refuse to bend the knee to leftists deciding the meaning of any word.

if in some cases they happen to manage to write the dictionary, that doesn't change my point.

btw the inventor of homophobia (Weinberg) claimed any form of aversion or dislike of homosexuality was a mental disease.

people who expanded that to trans-phobia and other -phobias thus are calling people who disagree with them mentally ill (in violation of forum rules).

the use of x-phobia by the left dramatically expands the fear to "any form of disagreement with the left on the topic" and at the same time claim that's fully irrational and derogatory. that made up word means "you disagree with the left on the topic and that's not allowed"

accepting such a word can be used is giving up on the topic to every point the left wants to make on it. they can change their preferences on the topic at hand and the word follows them.

example, it is now transphobic and discriminatory according to a portion of people on the left, for an heterosexual man to dislike dicks, because women can have dicks and an heterosexual man is supposed to like women.

same for a lesbian.

it's not that if dictionaries get written 2, or 5, years from now, including that, that it becomes true.

the made up by the left insult was never true and will never become true, it will never be a word we should dignify with meaning.

there is a war about language ongoing.

same with words like fascism, racism and so on. and there is a pattern by the left, making up new words or completely warp the meaning of old words, in the constant attempt to deny people who disagree with any leftist claim about anything the possibility of even debating their ideas.

you are transphobic, so you can't discuss the topic. you are racist. you are fascist. those are conversation enders, labels meaning just "you appear to disagree with us and that is not allowed".

and I won't be silenced by leftists.


by Bobo Fett P

Is this really a big problem? Both of your examples are "irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuals". In the first example, I suppose in the past one could argue that was a fear based in ignorance, but I would hope we're beyond that sort of thing now. And in the second case, I can't see why a distinction would need to be made. Does it really matter if the person literally hated all gay men, or just had an irratio

fear is irrational so intellectually inferior; a dislike can be subjective (so as rational as liking something, just purely arbitrary and as valid) or justified rationally.

they don't use (yet?) pedo-phobic, because even some people on the left still think there might be valid reasons to dislike pedophiles (although the left is hard at work to try to normalize pedophily these days).

it is a big problem if it becomes not allowed to even discuss the possibility that there might be rational reasons to dislike a group of people or that not liking every group the same is not allowed and irrational.

a negation of the subjectivity of preferences, the constant attempt to claim that exclusively their group preferences are allowed, that only they have the rational, superior position and so on.

an exceptionally violent attempt to control all political discourse, completely incompatible with civil society.


by rickroll P

thank you for your service!


by Luciom P

the you deciding the meaning was intended to be "your tribe" (lolwat tribe). I simply refuse to bend the knee to leftists deciding the meaning of any word.

if in some cases they happen to manage to write the dictionary, that doesn't change my point.

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there is a war about language ongoing.

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and I won't be silenced by leftists.


Um...OK, then.


No one accused anyone of being transphobic for not hooking up with a transgender person. I called you all transphobic because of your opinions that conflict with mainstream science and the desire to erase trans people from public life.

Randomly posing this hypothetical in a trans thread indicates something may be hot on your mind:

look at it this way, are you racist if turn down a sexual advance from someone of another race? of course not. Obviously, the reason for turning down the sexual advance could be due to racism, yet there's many genuine and plausible reasons for turning down sex with someone of another race that has nothing to do with their race or your feelings towards their race - to the extent that it's be absolutely ludicrous to claim that someone is racist simply based on the input of a single sexual rejection

It really came out of left field and you seem interested in the subject. Does this prove your racist? No. Does it indicate how you think about race? Yes. You sound like a grumpy old redneck using slightly better words to be racist.


by L0LWAT P

No one accused anyone of being transphobic for not hooking up with a transgender person. I called you all transphobic because of your opinions that conflict with mainstream science and the desire to erase trans people from public life.

The people on your team , those whose theories who regurgitate constantly, do it.

And disagreement with a PORTION of science which is NOT the consensus in most countries is not aversion to trans-ness.

And i didn't ask to ERASE anyone ffs, stop making up things. I am not asking to criminalize men who dress like women. Or to ban them from public life.

I am asking not to subsidize their choices and preferences with public money at any step, and to keep your dirty hands and "science" away from minors.


Is a lesbian transphobic if she does not want to have sex with trans women? Some lesbians say they are increasingly being pressured and coerced into accepting trans women as partners - then shunned and even threatened for speaking out. Several have spoken to the BBC, along with trans women who are concerned about the issue too.

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-5785...

IT'S NOT AN HYPOTHETICAL. The people you are supporting, whose insane theories you are alleging are "mainstream consensus" against facts, say it


Luciom you're so cool. You play the best disinformation games. Can you share your "science" sources that reject gender and assert it's not real?

Here's one proving consensus:

[QUOTE]Before the mid-20th century, it w...

This isn't a factual premise to begin an argument from. You start with misinformation, then layer all sorts of evil on top, and play the coolest word games. I hope those words are used well enough for you Mr. Fascisto Disinformatico.


by L0LWAT P

Luciom you're so cool. You play the best disinformation games. Can you share your "science" sources that reject gender and assert it's not real?

Here's one proving consensus:

[URL="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender"][/URL]

This isn't a factual premise to begin an argument from. You start with misinformation, then layer all sorts of evil on top, and play the coolest word games. I hope those words are used well enough for you Mr. Fascisto D

gender theory isn't only about the existence of gender as separated (yet usually very strongly correlated with) biological sex, which is not the part i am denying.

Gender theory is about many ulterior things as for ex the idea that gender can only and strictly be self-identified (no possible external objective validation of it) , and many other elements we discussed ITT ("trans women are women" and so on). Denial of biological sex dimorphism is part of gender theory as well.

As for what consensus is *check the legal systems of countries* not wikipedia jfc.

And using FEMINISM, which is an ultra-contested RADICAL LEFTIST IDEOLOGY as proof of CONSENSUS (which means the almost totality of people of all political affiliation blatantly agree with it, that's what consensus means) is exactly the violent tactics you guys apply all the times.

You invent a consensus that doesn't exist, because among yourself there is consensus, and you claim that PROVES you are right lol. And that it gives you the legal rationale to mandate your preferences.


You think that "feminist theory" is a science?


"western social scientists" these days are almost all leftists. These denies any intellectual and scientifical validity of any of their findings, and agreements among themselves only prove agreement AMONG LEFTISTS, not consensus.


by chillrob P

You think that "feminist theory" is a science?

For them if it's peer reviewed it's science (unless of course the conclusions disagree with leftism, in which case it's fake science).

"social science" itself is almost never science to begin with but they think putting the word science in makes it science.


I don't know from which reputable source that paragraph came, but it specifically says that gender is a social construct.

When many here on the left reply to something about race, they say that race is a social construct, which means it's not real, and was basically invented to have a reason to classify others as inferior.

But you think that saying gender is a social construct means that it is real?
Sure seems like the opposite to me.


by chillrob P

I don't know from which reputable source that paragraph came, but it specifically says that gender is a social construct.

When many here on the left reply to something about race, they say that race is a social construct, which means it's not real, and was basically invented to have a reason to classify others as inferior.

But you think that saying gender is a social construct means that it is real?
Sure seems like the opposite to me.

"social construct" means whatever they decide it to mean. It would be a useful expression but the way they use it, it isn't.

Money is a social construct and it's very real with very tangible effects. But it's a social construct in the actual useful sense of having value because we collectively decided it does.

Gender can't be a social construct in the sense they mean it, because it is not determined by collective fiat rather by the single individual IN THEIR OWN MODEL. So they change the meaning of social construct to mean something else.

It's word salad masturbation all the way down in every leftist approach to describe reality.

They took from religion: ambiguity and double meaning and the use of a lot of made up words (which they define as they want allow the clerics (the "social scientists" and their disciples and their political representatives and so on) to claim literally anything they want all the times.

The easiest solution for non radical leftists is to simply throw away the entire intellectual production of radical leftists, in every field, disregard it completly as utter trash , never dignify it with meaning or value, and treat anyone who uses it to "prove" something the same we would treat flat-earth people and the like.


If you believe sex is immutable, gender is mutable, and aren't fearful of transgender people, why do you hate trans activists? It looks like a bunch nonsense word games to discriminate against trans. Especially when you look at the policies...

I agree with everything you guys say except the hatred and discrimination parts.

The status quo is sex segregation with rare exceptions. I'm a conservative FFS not a leftist. Stop with the name calling.


I don't believe gender is mutable. I believe it can very very rarely be different from biological sex. I don't believe it exists on a spectrum though: non-binary. fluid and so on are completly false ideas of human reality.

I hate trans activists because they want to violently force their view of the world through laws to me.

I listed the topics:

1) they want to imprison people with dicks togheter with women (yes segregation in prisons IS NECESSARY TO PROTECT WOMEN FROM MEN CRIMINALS)

2) they want people with dicks to play women sports . We created women sports to let them have a chance of winning, otherwise they can't win if it's not segregated by sex, in almost any sport. The best men are better than the best women at 99% + of sports.

3) They want to drug and mutilate minors because they feel their gender is opposite to their biological sex. This is the main one for many people.

The status quo is not sex segregation for most things. We don't segregate in schools, in the workplace, in public areas, in private areas (in the west: in the islamic world they often do).

We do segregate where it makes sense, which is in a few areas, where the objective measurable difference between biological men and biological women creates a disadvantage for women so great, segregation is necessary. We segregate TO HELP WOMEN FLOURISH.

So trans activism is directly opposed to women rights basically, as a growing number of women are trying to tell you.

The list of laws you linked to isn't a list of discriminating laws. Try to check those, the actual provisions. Banning "trans care" for minors isn't discrimination. it's claiming that people should wait for absolute certainty of a disconnect between biological sex and gender before operating irreversible choices on their bodies.

Or anyway, that minors who can't drink a beer because the legal system considers them not mature enough, certainly can't be mature enough to consent to significant permanent changes to their bodies.

If you consider it "DISCRIMINATORY" to disagree with radical leftists about when a person is mature enough to be able to decide to permanently change his body, so be it. But that's actually an "age of consent" debate, not a trans debate.

Is any state banning "trans care" for adults? that would be discriminatory.

Is requiring an ID to indicate the biological sex discriminatory? why? and so on.

The radical left wants to call anything related to trans somebody disagree about with them discrimination. You claim not to be a radical leftist, why do you take their side every time on this topic on everything? did you read each and everyone of those legislative proposals?

because you should never believe a radical leftist when he claims something. They are some of the most horribly bad faith people in society. Why do you believe anything they claim about anything?


You project all your fear and hatred against whoever you're speaking with. You're the only person I see repeatedly advocating for violence and murder. It's hard to even imagine violent radical trans folks. You're irrational and obviously oozing fear of change.


by L0LWAT P

You project all your fear and hatred against whoever you're speaking with. You're the only person I see repeatedly advocating for violence and murder. It's hard to even imagine violent radical trans folks. You're irrational and obviously oozing fear of change.

Again instead of day dreaming, point me where i advocated violence or murder of trans people or STOP THIS INSANE NAME CALLING WITHOUT ANY BASIS.


It's all in your posts homie. You call everyone you disagree with a radical leftist or commie, then declare they should all die. You repeat it every single day. IDK how you can dispute that.


by L0LWAT P

No one accused anyone of being transphobic for not hooking up with a transgender person. I called you all transphobic because of your opinions that conflict with mainstream science and the desire to erase trans people from public life.

Randomly posing this hypothetical in a trans thread indicates something may be hot on your mind:

It really came out of left field and you seem interested in the subject. Does this prove your racist? No. Does i

i guess then we can correctly infer that you're a serial rapist who is planning on declaring trans once caught


by rickroll P

i guess then we can correctly infer that you're a serial rapist who is planning on declaring trans once caught

You pulled the concept of race from thin air. No one mentioned it but you. I didn't introduce the concept of rape or gender conversion to the trans thread. I did try to pose hypotheticals that remove constraints so we can get to the root of what you dislike about trans people existing. Then everyone called me a commie or some ****.


well i guess then we can close the case on this one, a serial rapist worried about getting caught who also has a mental handicap


I'm pretty sure lol is just trolling you guys or is unwell in some way.

It's almost impossible to believe we should have fully coed prisons. A well person who somehow did believe that would understand that it is an extremely fringe view.


nah, he's clearly a serial rapist


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