The costs of trans visibility

The costs of trans visibility

Yesterday, Dylan Mulvaney broke her silence: https://www.tiktok.com/@dylanmulvaney/vi....

For context, this is a trans influencer who built a 10 million strong following on TikTok. She took a brand deal with budweiser to post an ad on an instagram, and the anti-trans right went absolutely ballistic, calling for a boycott, condemning the company, and to some perhaps unknowable degree it influenced that Budweiser sales dropped by a 1/4 and

. Dylan speaks more personally about the effect of the hatred on her.

What strikes me about this story is that it is just about visibility. This isn't inclusion in sports or gender-affirming care for minors, it was just that a trans person was visible. This wasn't even visibility in a TV commerical that a poor right-winger is forced to see, it was an ad on her own instagram page. We're all in our own social media algorithm influenced bubbles, but from my vantage point it really has seemed that in the last year or so things have just gotten worse for trans people and the backlash to even minor visibility is growing.

We need to do better.

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by Luckbox Inc P

It's definitely something that I'd like to learn more about, but I think it's interesting how you're citing past cultures to make your argument while simultaneously arguing that past cultures got it wrong.

Right, we’ll it’s not an on/off switch of those past cultures got it wrong and now we the enlightened 21st century people are perfectly right. For example the hirjas- indias ancient third gender group, when modern day hirjas move to a place like America they often ( not always) Identify as transgender. I think Hirjas has an interesting history and the ideas of the hirjas as a third gender with amazing blessing powers are interesting. While I would say it is much more correct to say that hirjas are actually just transgender people and intersex people, I don’t think they are “wrong” about this in india. I think they correctly observed non-binary and transgender people in ancient times and made a valid ish social group out of them but influenced by vedic religions, and a patriarchal ancient society.

Even though I don’t think the ancient vedic scriptures show some divine understanding about gender and sex, I still think they prove that indians observed non-binary genders long long ago and that they had their own needs.


by spaceman Bryce P

Yes, of course. I think that lgbt folks were often smooshed together in bizarre ways due to myths, religion, the patriarchy, etc but those portrayals of the smooshed together sexual and gender minorities, whether they were seen as “boy and girl” “ladyboys” “eunuchs” “ men destined by god to suck semen” , “female with mixed boy minds” or whatever flavor of lgbtq representation they had at the time represented the actual lgbtq groups just n

man eunuchs are men with their dick cut off, literally, it's not a social construct lol nor it is "innate". Why are eunuchs in the list.


by Luciom P

man eunuchs are men with their dick cut off, literally, it's not a social construct lol nor it is "innate". Why are eunuchs in the list.

some ancient cultures basically called people “eunuchs “ who shouldn’t have been “eunuchs” it is an abusive social grouping given to non binary people in some ancient cultures. I don’t mean to say modern day eunuchs in that sentence. I’m talking about some messed up ancient ideas about what “eunuchs” were


by spaceman Bryce P

some ancient cultures basically called people “eunuchs “ who shouldn’t have been “eunuchs” it is an abusive social grouping given to non binary people in some ancient cultures. I don’t mean to say modern day eunuchs in that sentence. I’m talking about some messed up ancient ideas about what “eunuchs” were

Man no, they weren't using eunuch (or it's translation in their language) to mean anything other than castrated men, used in various ways.

Some people think it was mostly to guard harems (at least to begin with) but i think it was more about guaranteeing those people would have been exempt from any risk of nepotism, so you could give them significant power risking far less (nepotism was one of the great motivating forces for power upheavel, betrayal and so on, in societies with short lifespans especially).

I really don't understand how you can claim eunuchs, ie groups of men being castrated, have anything to do with gender identity or sexual preference.

At most, according to some, given the very specific roles usually given to the castrated men, the word might originally have meant those roles ("guardian of the bed") and then by metonymy it ended up meaning "castrated man".

Anyway absolutely nada to do with gender or any innate characteristic


by Luciom P

Man no, they weren't using eunuch (or it's translation in their language) to mean anything other than castrated men, used in various ways.

Some people think it was mostly to guard harems (at least to begin with) but i think it was more about guaranteeing those people would have been exempt from any risk of nepotism, so you could give them significant power risking far less (nepotism was one of the great motivating forces for power upheavel,

What do words mean? You should have talked to me enough by now to know I would know that a eunuch refers to a castrated men and not a gender identity. Of course I know that. I’m talking about ancient perceptions and stories in regards to gender.

Similarly, under any kind of modern conception “guys destined by god to suck semen” isn’t a gender identity or a sexual orientation. In fact out of context and under any kind of modern usage it’s quite a homophobic thing to say. Of course I know that.
However, there exists ancient text that describe a class of guys destined by god to suck semen, and I think it’s important to let texts speak for themselves. Clearly a high school teacher or bro history pod cast tier kind of person would read these stories and assume they were referring to gay men through a biased narrator. Which I ultimately think is correct, my best guess based on these texts is that although that culture didn’t have a clear concept of gay some flawed narrator described some effeminate gay men’s actions. But that’s not necessarily what those texts mean. In any case they were describing a class of people by the authors conception based on sexual acts in the context of his ancient culture. And they confirm non heterosexual activity took place back then.

It’s funny because you yourself are guilty of lumping gender identity and sexual orientation together earlier in this thread by insisting most trans women are gay guys lured into the lifestyle by their teachers. now multiply that by 1000 times worth of ignorance based on ancient resources.

Nevertheless these texts still show the existence of the lgbtq spectrum.


by spaceman Bryce P

What do words mean? You should have talked to me enough by now to know I would know that a eunuch refers to a castrated men and not a gender identity. Of course I know that. I’m talking about ancient perceptions and stories in regards to gender.

Similarly, under any kind of modern conception “guys destined by god to suck semen” isn’t a gender identity or a sexual orientation. In fact out of context and under any kind of modern usage it’s qu

Yes i am talking about "ancient" (past) societies as well. They were simply that, eunuchs, treated differently than other people because their specific mutilation made them different.

Still nothing to do with gender.

The "guy who suck semen" thing instead can quite easily be translated with what we call homosexuality now, i agree.

We do indeed have plenty of evidence for homosexuality in the past , especially because it wasn't even necessarily frowned upon too much here and there historically.

Fact is there is no "non binary" today, it is a meaningless label today, in order to find references to what is today a complete invention you need to simply apply the same invention to the past.

It's hard to find proof in the past of something that doesn't exist today lol. There is no "spectrum" for sex. And there is no gender, there is only sex, and a few people who don't feel inside them they are of their biological sex.


by Luciom P

Yes i am talking about "ancient" (past) societies as well. They were simply that, eunuchs, treated differently than other people because their specific mutilation made them different.

Still nothing to do with gender.

The "guy who suck semen" thing instead can quite easily be translated with what we call homosexuality now, i agree.

We do indeed have plenty of evidence for homosexuality in the past , especially because it wasn't even necessarily

So basically you don’t believe in :

Trans people
Gender
Non-binary people
Intersex people

You also missed my entire point in regards to those ancient conceptions.

In that case you won’t get much from my posts here.


by spaceman Bryce P

So basically you don’t believe in :

Trans people
Gender
Non-binary people
Intersex people

You also missed my entire point in regards to those ancient conceptions.

In that case you won’t get much from my posts here.

? I believe something close to what you and activists call trans exist. I believe you use gender in that case to mean a biological male (or female) to think he or she is the opposite sex.

I know "intersex" people exist same as people with less or more than 5 fingers exist, and their existence doesn't make us a species with a spectrum of fingers.

I disagree more than 2 genders exist because gender is just sex, and it's biological, and it's a binary.

Not sure what i missed about those ancient conceptions. People had bizzarre sexual preferences, cloth choices and so on all throughout history (and in the present) , that doesn't translate into "non binary exists" today or yesterday.

Because non binary means literally nothing.


by Luciom P

Given we have no mention of the purported killers after what, 12 days? And police is waiting for autoptic results (isn't 12 days really a lot for that? Not sure), and it happened in a girl bathroom, I think we can infer something about who the people who beaten Nex were and why we still don't have any info on them, don't you?

lol, going hard in the paint to defend murdering savages who beat a child's skull in, why am I not surprised?


by Trolly McTrollson P

lol, going hard in the paint to defend murdering savages who beat a child's skull in, why am I not surprised?

Nope, and when you realize who those people are, you probably understand that the literal opposite is happening.

If after 12 days we have no info on them, what's the probability it's white right leaning boys?

But cases of trauma dismissed by hospitals and then dying at home are unfortunately fairly frequent when head injuries are involved. That doesn't exculpate the original source of violence in any way, but try to follow the logic here, it is NOT NORMAL for us to have 0 info on the perpetrators of violence, on the bullies, and NOT NORMAL for an autopsy to require 12 days.

FWIW the new york post (which tends to be trash, so i'd prefer to wait for confirmation from other sources) is claiming the bullies were girls.


Straight-up smashed a child's face against a paper towel machine repeatedly, that's the ideology you carry water for.


by Trolly McTrollson P

Straight-up smashed a child's face against a paper towel machine repeatedly, that's the ideology you carry water for.

No, my problem is that's very high probability it was girls, from minority backgrounds.

Which is why we aren't told yet, they hope we pass to other topics.

It wouldn't play well to the narrative if the anti-LGBTQ bullies are people from demographics that skew democrat (when adult) more than any other.

Maybe i am wrong and it was 16y white boys in the girl bathroom, but given they have witnesses, including adult ones, if that was the case do you truly believe we wouldn't have been told already?

EDIT: and there might be a malpractice case ON TOP of this which they are trying to hide


by Luciom P

No, my problem is that's very high probability it was girls, from minority backgrounds.

Which is why we aren't told yet, they hope we pass to other topics.

It wouldn't play well to the narrative if the anti-LGBTQ bullies are people from demographics that skew democrat (when adult) more than any other.

Maybe i am wrong and it was 16y white boys in the girl bathroom, but given they have witnesses, including adult ones, if that was the case do y

I can promise you zero people who actually care about trans lives care what race or gender the bullies are, they just want it to stop. This idea that it would matter or anyone has suggested it would matter is an invention in your head.


by spaceman Bryce P

I can promise you zero people who actually care about trans lives care what race or gender the bullies are, they just want it to stop. This idea that it would matter or anyone has suggested it would matter is an invention in your head.

Ye i believe it's not people who care about trans, rather people who care about faking they care about trans but they mostly care about some very specific narrative.

There are forces on the left whose sole role is trying to brainwash the west about how being white and male is necessarily associated with being a terrible human being and viceversa.

These forces use all topics discussed politically under those lens. That include trans activism. So a self defined non binary person dies after being beaten by people. If you can pinpoint to white men (or boys) being the perpetrators, that's "clearly" bullying for trans issues.

If instead it's girls from minority backgrounds, then you wait and see and maybe you come out with "tragic incident after a collutation for stupid reasons like it happens in high schools".

Given 12 days passed and we know nothing about the students who beat Nex, what do you think is the case?


Everyone ITT is making the assumption that being trans mattered here.

Girls are mean as **** to each other, and bullying is not a new invention. Children's faces are smashed every single day in classrooms and bathrooms all across the country, and very few of them are part of some special snowflake group. Some people don't need an excuse. They're just shitty kids produced by shitty people.

This girl could've just worn the wrong color shoes that day and it was enough to set someone off.

If you want to be part of society, you don't get to escape the sometimes violent reality that everyone else lives with, too. The more you make this about trans issues, the easier it is for society to ignore the actual problem, which is our woefully inadequate child-rearing skills.


Indo might be right: How can we expect children to understand that bashing someone to death 4,5,6 against 1 is wrong for some perceived difference when their parents, with the fully formed brains and emotional control, can't even stop bashing on people for perceived differences, you know, like the color of their shoes.

Man, you must be a shitty parent with shitty kids.


by jjjou812 P

Indo might be right: How can we expect children to understand that bashing someone to death 4,5,6 against 1 is wrong for some perceived difference when their parents, with the fully formed brains and emotional control, can't even stop bashing on people for perceived differences, you know, like the color of their shoes.

Man, you must be a shitty parent with shitty kids.

Poster suggests it might not be anti-trans discrimination, and your answer is "you are a shitty parent with shitty kids".

Seriously?


by spaceman Bryce P

Lol @ “there was also the murder of brianna” many many murders and horrific cases of abuse, 100’s of horrific laws whose only purpose is to abuse/dehumanize the trans community.


Yeah I'm talking about that one as it made the headlines, I tend not to trawl the internet looking for murders of specific demographics or indeed any.


The preconditions of a genocide have been set.


Dude. Get a hold of yourself and stop going on like a hysterical Victorian old biddy.🙄 *slaps spaceman smartly*
That was for your own good. It's called tough love. Learn from it.


by Luciom P

man eunuchs are men with their dick cut off, literally, it's not a social construct lol nor it is "innate". Why are eunuchs in the list.

Eunuchs could still bang the wifes of the kings imo. So yes why are they on the list?

Greeks? Why on the list?


by jjjou812 P

Indo might be right: How can we expect children to understand that bashing someone to death 4,5,6 against 1 is wrong for some perceived difference when their parents, with the fully formed brains and emotional control, can't even stop bashing on people for perceived differences, you know, like the color of their shoes.

Man, you must be a shitty parent with shitty kids.

Parents, collectively, because there were 3 attackers. The odds that any one of those children have more than one parent at home are fairly low.

You know how all the lefties pine for a return to the times where families could afford a house and car and annual vacations on a single income? One very important part of that equation was the presence of two parents.

We are rapidly approaching the point where nearly half of kids are living in a single-parent household. Stories like this are just one of the predictable consequences of that.

I'm past the child-rearing phase of my life and would like to think it was a great success. My youngest will graduate high school in a few months and has already been accepted to the college of her choice. As far as I'm aware, neither her nor her brothers have ever laid a hand on a fellow student. It's amazing what a stable household can accomplish.


by Inso0 P

Parents, collectively, because there were 3 attackers. The odds that any one of those children have more than one parent at home are fairly low.

You know how all the lefties pine for a return to the times where families could afford a house and car and annual vacations on a single income? One very important part of that equation was the presence of two parents.

We are rapidly approaching the point where nearly half of kids are living in a s


The **** are you babbling about here? Who said anything about single-parent households? Is this just a free-word association prompt for you?


Sorry, go back to circle-jerking about transgenderism. I do often forget that nobody really wants to talk about the underlying problems in society that create outcomes like this. It's much more important to hand out Victim of the Month medals to a rotating cast of misfits and talk about how tolerant and progressive we are.


by Inso0 P

It's much more important to hand out Victim of the Month medals to a rotating cast of misfits and talk about how tolerant and progressive we are.

Imagine posting like this about a teenager who got beaten to death in a bathroom. I know it's a touchy subject for you, Ins0, but you can always just sit this one out.


by Luciom P

Poster suggests it might not be anti-trans discrimination, and your answer is "you are a shitty parent with shitty kids".

Seriously?

Shitty poster who presents shitty parent reasoning must be presumed to be a good parent with good kids because, of course, violence happens with mean girls over the color of shoes everyday?


I'm all about exaggeration for effect, but that statement isn't quite true as you intended it to be taken.


Benedict told their grandmother that they and another trans student had fought the other students in the bathroom, according to the Independent. The teen told her they'd hit their head on the floor.

Sue Benedict said she was told by the school that her grandchild had received a two-week suspension after the assault. She said she was enraged that medical services weren't called even though Nex had bruises on their face.

...

Benedict's grandmother, who was their guardian, took the teenager to the hospital that day. They went back the next day after Benedict became ill. Benedict died that evening.


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