The costs of trans visibility

The costs of trans visibility

Yesterday, Dylan Mulvaney broke her silence: https://www.tiktok.com/@dylanmulvaney/vi....

For context, this is a trans influencer who built a 10 million strong following on TikTok. She took a brand deal with budweiser to post an ad on an instagram, and the anti-trans right went absolutely ballistic, calling for a boycott, condemning the company, and to some perhaps unknowable degree it influenced that Budweiser sales dropped by a 1/4 and

. Dylan speaks more personally about the effect of the hatred on her.

What strikes me about this story is that it is just about visibility. This isn't inclusion in sports or gender-affirming care for minors, it was just that a trans person was visible. This wasn't even visibility in a TV commerical that a poor right-winger is forced to see, it was an ad on her own instagram page. We're all in our own social media algorithm influenced bubbles, but from my vantage point it really has seemed that in the last year or so things have just gotten worse for trans people and the backlash to even minor visibility is growing.

We need to do better.

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30 June 2023 at 04:48 PM
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by Didace P

I'm saying you have no ****ing clue what happened here and your speculation is made up out of whole cloth.

I hope that helps.

Why aren't you saying the same to the people who immediately jumped at the idea bullying was the cause though, I wonder


by Luckbox Inc P

If a trans identified individual kills themselves I think it's more reasonable to suggest that issues related to identity came into play than other causes like missing homework.

Yeah for sure it's all speculation but some guesses are more reasonable than others.

The issues that may have caused the uncertainty and anxiety that resulted in identity issues (such as both parents absenting themselves at a very early stage, leaving everything to the grandmother) are worth considering, but it is a bad idea to attribute any suicide to a single particular cause, absent judicial proof, especially where the young are concerned because of their known liability to suggestion and social contagion.

It's of interest that, before the legal and medical finding of suicide, media sources pre-emptively attempted to claim Benedict's death as a murder, even inventing 'serious head injuries' which were not in evidence, and also claiming that Oklahoma's law against school students using the opposite sex's bathrooms had anything to do with it, which for obvious reasons it didn't.


by uke_master P

A non-binary teen was bullied and then committed suicide and you want an apology for some imagined win on the internet? Buddy this is a tragedy. Show some basic humanity.

So first Nex was beaten to death, then when it's ruled a suicide it's due to bullying? Seems to me you're engaging in narrative rather than attempting true insights.


by Luciom P

Why aren't you saying the same to the people who immediately jumped at the idea bullying was the cause though, I wonder

I don't feel the need to respond to every post or opine on all topics. You should try it.


by corpus vile P

So first Nex was beaten to death, then when it's ruled a suicide it's due to bullying? Seems to me you're engaging in narrative rather than attempting true insights.

There is a federal investigation into the incident that is ongoing.


by Luciom P

And yet you were ready to speculate the suicide was caused by previous sustained bullism, i wonder why

I didn't speculate about the cause of their death. Only you did that. With wild fantasies about it being the secret fault of the left. Just because you did something horrendous in the face of a tragic death doesn't mean you get to pretend some whataboutism game that I did it too.


by corpus vile P

So first Nex was beaten to death, then when it's ruled a suicide it's due to bullying? Seems to me you're engaging in narrative rather than attempting true insights.

Why are you responding to me? I made no claim ITT about the cause of their death, before or after the autopsy.


by Luckbox Inc P

If a trans identified individual kills themselves I think it's more reasonable to suggest that issues related to identity came into play than other causes like missing homework.

Yeah for sure it's all speculation but some guesses are more reasonable than others.

Or that the choice to adopt a trans identity and the self-harm issues are symptoms of another underlying issue....


by Jackontheturn P

Or that the choice to adopt a trans identity and the self-harm issues are symptoms of another underlying issue....

It’s impossible to “adopt a trans identity” you either are trans or not.


by spaceman Bryce P

It’s impossible to “adopt a trans identity” you either are trans or not.

Do you have a take on people who detransition? Were they never actually trans even when they identified as such?


by Luckbox Inc P

Do you have a take on people who detransition? Were they never actually trans even when they identified as such?

97-99% of trans individuals who transition don’t detransition. The other 3% mostly detransition at “gun point” - either for financial reasons or massive abuse from their own family.


by spaceman Bryce P

97-99% of trans individuals who transition don’t detransition. The other 3% mostly detransition at “gun point” - either for financial reasons or massive abuse from their own family.

So your position is that the people who detransition are still actually trans?


by Luckbox Inc P

So your position is that the people who detransition are still actually trans?

almost all the time, yes.


by uke_master P

I'm sorry, I'm not in the game of using the tragic suicide of a non-binary student as a way to score points on the internet. Speculate away if you must, but I'm not joining you.

first off, how noble of you. seriously, you're an amazing person.

second, does the fact that he/she was non-binary somehow make it a worse tragedy?


by spaceman Bryce P

almost all the time, yes.

Why


by spaceman Bryce P

97-99% of trans individuals who transition don’t detransition. The other 3% mostly detransition at “gun point” - either for financial reasons or massive abuse from their own family.

Lol this 3% is about people who still keep relationships with fender clinics.

It's a super low-ball estimate, resistors are actually exceptionally more common than that.

But you guys have an incredibly strong reason to lie about this I understand.

Because every non trans who gets sterilized or mutilated is something society could reasonably use to shut down all the "trans youth care" operations


by spaceman Bryce P

It’s impossible to “adopt a trans identity” you either are trans or not.

This is not true just on general principles. Regardless of your opinion of the transgender issue, it is possible to be something and choose not to identify yourself as that thing in society. And equally, you can not be something and choose to identify as that thing socially.


by sublime P

first off, how noble of you. seriously, you're an amazing person.

I feel like not using the tragic death of a non-binary person to score internet victory points with inane speculations about that the *real* reason they committed suicide is because of evil lefties is a pretty low bar to pass, not some high mark of nobility.

by sublime P

he/she was non-binary

Why did you use binary pronouns to describe someone that two words later you described as non-binary?


by Jackontheturn P

And equally, you can not be something and choose to identify as that thing socially.

Ah yes the fake trans menace again. How original.


by uke_master P

Why did you use binary pronouns to describe someone that two words later you described as non-binary?

Because we don't buy radical leftist semantics.

If someone is confused (non binary) that's not another gender or a spectrum. Everyone is exclusively either man or woman, male or female.

If confused and you want to respect, you use he/she.


by Luciom P

Imagine a model in which a trans identified kid gets worse mental health treatment because mental health professionals are worried about looking like they want to deny the affirmed gender identity at least in part, which is considered absolutely taboo in some circles.

So a mental condition gets minimized and not treated appropriately and can lead to suicide more often than it would have otherwise happened with proper treatment unfettered by

None of this makes any sense except for those seeing really dumb doctors who shouldn't be practicing. Imagine an individual who has symptoms severe enough to diagnose some depression or anxiety disorder. If that individual is trans or not, it doesn't at all influence whether their symptoms meet the criteria for that mental health condition. Perhaps you'd consider a diagnosis of gender dysphoria instead, but that's the only change that would be made.

As someone who is a mental health professional and who works with many other such people daily, I find the idea that a mental health professional would downplay psychopathology in someone because they're trans just absurd. This profession skews left, so if anything wouldn't we be prone to over-treating such individuals?


by uke_master P

I feel like not using the tragic death of a non-binary person to score internet victory points with inane speculations about that the *real* reason they committed suicide is because of evil lefties is a pretty low bar to pass, not some high mark of nobility.

?

Radical leftism structurally always does the max damage to the groups it purportedly tries to help, starting with racial minorities.

It's not strange to see trans people being directly killed causally because of the trans activist movement. That's what radical leftism does regularly. When they start caring about the poor's, the poor's suffer horribly. When they start caring about women, women rights disappear. When they start caring about racial minorities, blacks and latinos in the USA die more because of them ("defund the police").

And so on.

It's like a rule, everything the radical left touches gets massacred, radical leftists hands are covered in blood


by ganstaman P

None of this makes any sense except for those seeing really dumb doctors who shouldn't be practicing. Imagine an individual who has symptoms severe enough to diagnose some depression or anxiety disorder. If that individual is trans or not, it doesn't at all influence whether their symptoms meet the criteria for that mental health condition. Perhaps you'd consider a diagnosis of gender dysphoria instead, but that's the only change that would

If it's depression, gender identity doesn't matter much.

What about schizophrenia? Various behavioral disorders?

If you can't use gender identification as one of the severe symptoms of something being really wrong with that kid, because pseudo religious thinking forces you violently to NEVER doubt teenagers self identifications, never use that as a signal something might be wrong, you are very limited as a treating physician.

What if self identifying as trans in this society is a cry for help? No, that's impossible, we have to take 100% of the self identifications as simply the expression of true gender identity, no matter how inconsistent with the rest of the clinical picture that might be.


by uke_master P

I feel like not using the tragic death of a non-binary person to score internet victory points with inane speculations about that the *real* reason they committed suicide is because of evil lefties is a pretty low bar to pass, not some high mark of nobility.

Why did you use binary pronouns to describe someone that two words later you described as non-binary?

every teenage suicide (or murder) is tragic. do you not debate any of those?

as for your second question, i really don't have a good answer. i can comprehend a man saying he is actually a woman or vice versa but i can't comprehend someone saying they are neither. im not trying to be difficult, just more or less saying it's a habit to refer to someone as he/she. should i say they? i guess that's probably right.

more or less i am on board with an adult saying they are a gender different than what shows in their underoos but when they say they are neither its a lot harder to take them seriously as i think nearly every species on the planet is divided amongst male or female.


by spaceman Bryce P

It’s impossible to “adopt a trans identity” you either are trans or not.

When describing people, how do you differentiate between someone who is trans in their head but hasn't changed anything, versus someone who changes their appearance, name, etc.?


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